December 10, 2009
Signs of a Healthy Relationship
Many people have a picture of unhealthy relationships that includes physical assault and black-and-blue eyes, but there are other factors that can also make a relationship unhealthy. Many times relationships that turn violent begin without violence, but warning signs may still exist. In the link provided below a former victim of domestic violence outlines some signs of a healthy relationship.
Jeanette Stingley (2009) lists respect as one of the most important elements of a healthy relationship. Domestic violence is often the result of an imbalance of power, making it essential for romantic partners to be treated as equals in the relationship. Another feature of a healthy relationship is that each partner in the relationship asks for the other’s opinion in matters that affect each other and values those opinions even if he or she disagrees with them.
In my relationship I have discovered that compromise is crucial. Compromise allows romantic partners to work together, to each have a voice that is heard, and to find solutions that benefit both parties. Another critical factor is support. You don’t always need to agree with the beliefs and actions of your partner, but you should support them.
If a relationship does not include equality, respect, and support, it may be a warning sign that the relationship is unhealthy and should be ended before serious problems, such as domestic abuse, arise.
http://www.bellaonline.com/articles/art23762.asp
mujtalwan said,
December 14, 2009 at 2:36 PM
Right on Ashley! You hit the nail on its head with your description of the “typifying example” of domestic abuse. I assume you would agree with me when I say that it’s too bad that many typifying examples give imagery of problems when it’s already too late. Wether it’s a starving child wiht a distended belly or a bloodied spouse, most typifying examples show us when it’s “too late”. Aside from that, the other factors you describe are without a doubt important in successful relationships. My only complaint, it seems to just sorta end. I’m not sure if that’s because I wanted more or because there was no closing paragraph. Just a thought.
theasylumproject said,
December 15, 2009 at 7:55 AM
I really liked this article. This is a good checklist of important factors a relationship needs as well as a preventative tool for what might happen in the future. I think the author is right that often we hear the negative side-what to do once violence starts, without knowing how to stop it from happeneding in the first place. I think you gave a good overview of what he wastrying to get across. I agree with the previous post though that you may want to add a conclusion.